Falling in love
Updated: Sep 18, 2018
We all know the exciting sensation of butterflies in our stomach when we have met someone who may be the one; the special one we could fall in love with forever and ever; the one whose quirks and potentially annoying habits do not bother us the slightest, but are put down as charming. The immediate weeks upon arrival in one's new country is remarkably similar to the first stage of getting to know a new partner. Welcome to the honeymoon phase.
Never mind that one needs to unpack a whole household of boxes, find a GP and a bank, that setting up in rented accommodation comes with a host of issues on its own as does opening up a bank account fot that matter (!), that one's children seem confused or that ahead lies a list as long as one's arm of things to do before everyday life fully kicks in.
In this phase, everything is looked at through rose-tinted glasses and life feels like a long, never ending holiday. For some, the move abroad means a higher standard of living, some even have servants in their household; for others, this is a time of exploration and for most, this is a time where one's trivial troubles do not exist, but have been replaced with hope and excitement.
For many, this is an opportunity to start all over; to leave behind what did not seem to be working in one's life, to wipe the slate clean and move forward to a richer and more fulfilling life. Regardless of wanting to exercise more, eater cleaner, learn a new language, improve the relationship with one's spouse or taking a pottery course, it is a time of hope; and the bliss of a new beginning comes with the risk of forgetting that one's internal struggles have made it across the pond too and have not necessarily been resolved because one wakes up in a different time zone.
Enjoy the honeymoon phase, make friends and start exploring your new surroundings, allow yourself to enjoy the positive spin you will experience on most challenges, and be willing to learn and adjust. This is a temporary state of exotic excitement and many first timers are completely oblivious of the rude awakening that lies ahead.
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