Attachment Style Course for Expats
Feel more secure in your relationships – even when
expat life feels overwhelming
If you feel more anxious, distant, or emotionally overwhelmed in your relationships after moving abroad, you’re not imagining it.
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This course helps you understand what’s happening beneath the surface – and shows you how to create calmer, safer, and more connected relationships again.
For safer and healthier connections – anywhere in the world. ​​
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Attached & Abroad
When relationships feel harder after moving abroad – and you don’t understand why
Moving abroad doesn’t just change your surroundings.
It affects your nervous system, your relationships – and your sense of self.
Without your usual support system, things that once felt manageable can suddenly feel overwhelming.
You may notice stronger emotional reactions, more conflict or distance, or a deeper sense of disconnection.
And often, old relational patterns begin to resurface.
Not because you’ve gone backwards –
but because your system is trying to find safety in an unfamiliar world.
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This is where Attached & Abroad comes in.
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Inside the course, you’ll learn how to move from:
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emotional overwhelm and overthinking → to calm and clarity
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conflict or distance → to safer, more honest connection
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losing yourself → to feeling grounded and more like you again
This isn’t about becoming perfect in relationships.
It’s about feeling safer in them – especially when life feels uncertain.
This course is for you if:
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you long to feel more secure and at ease in your relationships.
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you recognise patterns like anxiety, withdrawal, or emotional overwhelm.
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you want deeper, more meaningful connections in your life abroad.
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you’re ready to understand yourself on a deeper level and create real change.
This course is not for you if:
You’re looking for a quick fix without reflection or emotional work.
This is a gentle, but real, process of change.
Have a little sneak peak
Attached & Abroad is a self-paced online course designed for expats who want to feel more secure in themselves and their relationships.
Psychotherapist, couples counsellor, and former expat Henriette Johnsen guides you through 10 video modules, practical exercises, and nervous system regulation tools.
What’s included:
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10 guided modules
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Practical exercises for real-life change
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Nervous system regulation audio guide
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Monthly live support sessions
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Lifetime access to all materials
Investment: DKK 2.995 (approx. 400€)
This is not just about learning – it’s about changing how you experience yourself in relationships every day.
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You can try the course for 14 days.
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If it doesn’t feel right for you, simply reach out and you’ll receive a full refund.
Want a preview? Watch this 2-minute compilation of some of the course modules for an idea of what to expect:
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I didn’t always feel secure in relationships either!
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My attachment style used to be highly insecure and disorganised.
I was struggling – not just in my relationships, but in myself.
And moving abroad intensified everything.
Today, I experience a much deeper sense of calm, connection, and stability – both in my relationships and in myself.
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Over time, through both personal work and professional training, something shifted.
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My own expat experiences – combined with years of working as a psychotherapist and couples therapist – have shaped this course.
It’s designed to help you feel safer, more connected, and more grounded in yourself and your relationships.
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This is not just about insight.
It’s about real change – working with your core wounds, your nervous system, and your relational patterns, so you can begin to feel more secure from the inside out.
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The result is not just more understanding, but a deeper sense of belonging –
to yourself, in your close relationships, and in the life you’re building abroad.
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If you’d like to get a better sense of me and my work, you are welcome to explore my blog. Also, you can read about my values and how I work here.
Your attachment style guide: Psychotherapist Henriette Johnsen
Monthly live support sessions – so you’re not doing this alone
As part of the course, you’re invited to join a monthly live support session on Zoom.
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These sessions are a space where you can bring your questions, your challenges, or simply listen and learn from others working with similar patterns.
You can ask questions live or submit them in advance if you prefer to stay anonymous. Participation is always optional – you’re welcome to join quietly with your camera and microphone off.
This is a calm, supportive space to help you keep moving forward in your process toward more secure attachment.
Sessions are offered at different times to accommodate participants across time zones.
Wednesday 11th Februar 12.30-1.30 pm CET
Wednesday 18th March 7.00-8.00 pm CET
Wednesday 13th May 8.30-9.30 am CET
Wednesday 10th June 12.30-1.30 pm CET
What it’s like to work with me
The course is built on the same approach I use in my work with individuals and couples. Here’s what some of them have experienced:
Not only was Henriette respectfully and non-judgmentally curious about our cultural differences, she is also empathic and validating, appropriately challenging, and very knowledgeable of life abroad.
Our marriage started falling apart after the birth of our twin boys. With Henriette's extensive knowledge of the pressure nomad life puts on a relationship and her eye for recognizing the dysfunctional patterns we had created between us over the years, she helped us gain more emotional contact to ourselves and each other as well as a greater understanding of how to help each other with the twins. Today, we are grateful for being able to solve our conflicts in a more respectful manner and for having regained our intimacy.
Henriette has helped me gain more empathy for myself and others, and I strongly recommend her services.
What to expect from the attachment style course
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First, an introduction to and overview of what you will gain from the attachment style course.
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Understand the connection between belonging, identity, authenticity, and attachment style.
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How identity relates to attachment style and expat life influences identity crisis. Build further awareness of your sense of self and identity.
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An introduction to attachment theory and the different attachment styles.
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What fosters attachment styles, and how they manifest in adulthood and relationships. Plus, find your own attachment style!
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Core wounds, beliefs, and confirmation biases: What they are and how they relate to your attachment style. Begin to heal core wounds and stop your tendency for confirmation bias.
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Introduction to the nervous system – in particular, the autonomic nervous system and its connection to attachment style.
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Stress responses: How fight, flight, and freeze are connected to the various attachment styles. Build more capacity in your nervous system and learn to regulate your stress responses.
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How your attachment style, your core wounds, and your nervous system play out in your closest relationships.
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In this wrap-up-module, you will begin to put things together to learn how to take charge of your emotional life and empower yourself in your relationships
This is where your work toward feeling more secure can begin.
Investment: DKK 2.995 (approx. 400€)
A one-time payment for a process you can return to – again and again – as your life and relationships evolve.
Tools to support you in your everyday life
The course is designed to fit into your daily life – not the other way around.
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All modules are available as both video and audio, so you can listen while walking, commuting, or taking a quiet moment for yourself.
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a downloadable workbook to deepen your reflections
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guided exercises to help you actively work with your patterns
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a short audio practice to calm and regulate your nervous system when you feel overwhelmed
These are tools you can return to again and again – as your awareness and capacity grow.
Why expat life can strain even strong relationships
Expat life can put unexpected pressure on even strong relationships.
Without your usual support system, small tensions can grow more quickly. Emotional distance can feel stronger. And the sense of safety you once had with each other can begin to slip.
Old wounds, misunderstandings, and relational patterns often resurface – sometimes with an intensity that feels confusing or overwhelming.
Many expat couples find themselves arguing more, drifting apart, or feeling disconnected in ways they didn’t before.
Not because the relationship is broken – but because the conditions have changed.
Move toward a more secure way of relating
This course helps you build a more secure foundation – both within yourself and in your relationships.
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You’ll learn how to:
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navigate conflict more calmly and with clarity
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stay connected instead of shutting down or becoming overwhelmed
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understand your emotional reactions and respond more consciously
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rebuild a sense of closeness – with yourself and with others
Over time, this creates not just better relationships – but a stronger, more stable sense of self.
What is an attachment style – and why does it matter?
Your attachment style is the way you subconsciously seek safety, care, and connection in relationships.
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It shapes how you respond to closeness, conflict, vulnerability, and emotional distance – often without you even realising it.
Secure vs. insecure attachment style
If your attachment style is secure, you’re more likely to feel stable, connected, and able to navigate challenges in relationships.
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If it’s insecure or disorganised, relationships can feel more fragile. You may experience anxiety, distance, or difficulty staying emotionally
connected – especially under stress.
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In expat life, this often becomes more intense. Loneliness, identity
shifts, and lack of support can activate old patterns more strongly.
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The good news is:
Your attachment style can change.
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FAQ about attachment styles and the attachment style course
What is an attachment style?
Attachment style is a set of relational resources, skills, and competences that we subconsciously use in an attempt to have our emotional needs for safety, care, and connection met.
Are attachment styles real?
Yes, attachment styles are real! They have been and continue to be highly researched within the field of psychology.
How many attachment styles are there?
Within attachment style theory, we operate with 4 types of attachment style: secure attachment, the insecure attachment styles avoidant and anxious-ambivalent, and the disorganised attachment style.
What is my attachment style?
The course will provide you with the knowledge and tools to figure out your own attachment style which likely consists of a combination of the different attachment styles.
When do attachment styles develop?
Attachment styles are formed in our childhood, but can develop and change throughout our lives – also, it’s not uncommon to have different ways of attaching to different people in our lives.
Where do attachment issues come from?
Attachment styles are founded in our early years and depend on the level of emotional safety that you have experienced with your parents or other primary caregiver.
Can attachment style change?
Yes, attachment style can change. Due to plasticity, you can work towards gaining a more secure attachment style.
How to fix an anxious attachment style?
By working on your core wounds and confirmation biases, learning to regulate and building capacity in your nervous system, as well as acquiring certain relational skills/tools, it’s possible to work towards a more secure attachment style. It’s not an easy fix; and though it’s perfectly possible to make significant and sustainable changes, for some, it’s an ongoing task.
How to heal avoidant attachment style?
You can work towards a more secure attachment style by building certain relational skills and tools, learning to regulate your nervous system and working with your core wounds and confirmation biases. It is not an easy fix, but it is possible to heal and make changes. It’s an ongoing task that this course will help you with.
How long does this course take?
The course contains about 3.5 hours of video material, a 10 minute audio guide, and 10 exercises in total - but how long you spend on it is up to you. I strongly recommend that you take your time, let the learnings sink in, and don't rush the exercises. There's no time limit to the course, and you can watch the videos again and again! By coming back to the modules and exercises over time and continuously working with your nervous system regulation, core wounds, and confirmation bias, you will experience the healing and changing of your attachment style that you seek.
Can I take this course at my own pace?
Yes, you can work at your own pace as well as revisit the modules that you may want to work with again.
How does the live support sessions work?
8–10 times a year, I offer a live online support session for course participants on Zoom. Each session lasts one hour. You can find the dates for upcoming sessions further up on this page, and an email with a link to the meeting will be sent out to all course participant about a week before. At the session, you can ask any questions you might have within the course framework, or you can email me your question up to 48 hours before the session to remain anonymous.
Will my access to the course expire?
No, once you purchase the course, you’ll have ongoing access to all materials, including videos, downloads, and any future updates.
What is the price of the course
The attachment style course is priced at DKK 2.995 which is approximately 400€ or 470$ (depending on the current exchange rate).
Will doing this course make me overwhelmed by my past?
What will be overwhelming for one person might not be for the next, so it’s difficult to say how you will react to the learning and the exercises. If you notice an increased level of anxiety, severe mood swings, or feel overwhelmed with old trauma whilst working through the course, I suggest you go at a slower pace – and perhaps seek the support of a good counsellor or therapist to help you process your learning further.
Can the course be considered a substitute for personal therapy?
No, the course is not intended to be or to replace therapy. It can have therapeutic effects and help you create a more secure attachment style, a stronger sense of self and identity, as well as better your relationships. On its own – or alongside therapy.
Can anybody take this course?
If you suffer from addiction, substance abuse, have a diagnosed severe and longstanding psychiatric disorder, or experience suicidal ideation or have attempted to take your own life, this course may not be appropriate for you – I suggest that you drop me an email on henriette@thegoodexpatlife.com or talk with your current therapist to discuss its appropriateness before enrolment.
Is this course only for expats?
Although developed for expats, the learning and personal development are universal and can be useful for everybody, as well as applied to all relationships.
You don’t have to stay stuck in these patterns​
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It’s possible to feel calmer, more secure, and more connected –
in yourself, in your relationships, and in the life you’re building abroad.
This work takes honesty, reflection, and practice.
But it also creates real, lasting change.
You don’t have to do it perfectly.
You just have to begin.